I'll
start with this: polygamy was not God's way. Sorry to disappoint you fans of
HBO's “Big Love.” God's way was one man for one woman. I have several theories
why. Some might even stand the test of time. I'll forego that route for now
because you will probably acquire some hints when you look at passages in
Deuteronomy. For example: 21: 15 If a man has two wives, and he
loves one but not the other, and both bear him sons but the firstborn is the
son of the wife he does not love, 16
when he wills his property to his sons, he must not give the rights of the
firstborn to the son of the wife he loves in preference to his actual
firstborn, the son of the wife he does not love. 17 He must acknowledge the son of his unloved wife as the
firstborn by giving him a double share of all he has. That son is the first
sign of his father’s strength. The right of the firstborn belongs to him.
What
is God addressing here? The natural insecurity daddy engenders in his children
when he marries more than one woman. If you want a story illustrates this in
exquisite detail, see that of Jacob and his wives in Genesis 29–30. In God's
nation, stability and security were important. A stable nation consisted of
stable homes.
Even
more fundamental to the stability of Israel was this–drum roll, please–the
control of the national sex drive. One commentator caught my attention when he
wrote this:
sex was a
political matter, not just a private one. Purity belonged to the family–and to
the nation.
All those passages–like Deuteronomy 22–that talk about the proof of
purity (and protected a woman against slander) emphasized at least two points:
1) purity mattered
2) purity mattered–so much so a woman was to be pure when she married
3) purity mattered so much that a husband who married and suffered
from “buyer’s remorse” could not divorce his new wife unless he had absolute
proof she had come to him impure.
God
considered purity issues public issues in Israel. Case in point: Deuteronomy
22:22–22 If a man is
found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the
woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel.
Adultery
merited capital punishment. A man sleeping with another man's wife committed a
crime not only against the other husband, but also against the entire
community, and against the entire nation. God decreed, consequently, that the
nation purge itself of this evil.
Adultery
adulterated that which was to remain un-adulterated.
Instability
undermined society. Infidelity was considered the opposite of fidelity.
Curiously, centuries ago people began referring to those who did not believe in
God as “infidels.” Infidelity created infidels in a nation.
Here
is where 21st-century American culture diverges. The ideal in Israel assumed that what happened
between consenting adults behind closed doors influenced the community at
large. If the behavior reflected God standards, society was
strengthen. If behavior deviated from God's standards, society was threatened.
God
instructed Israel to consider rape a crime of assault and violence–tantamount
to murder. God's teaching on rape was so emphatic that if a man and woman were
alone in the country, and no one was around to rescue the woman were to scream at
an attack by the man, the rapist was still considered guilty.
This
reality encouraged men to form strategies that allowed them to stand above
reproach. The bottom line was that God wanted the people of Israel to love one
another in responsible ways. By showing respect for life and sexuality, by
maintaining purity, they made themselves distinct from the culture around them.
That is to say, they maintained holiness. The greatest demonstration of this was
through the family.
Disclaimer:
I do not advocate today laws that call for the stoning of people who sin
sexually. Nevertheless, remember that God did not offer these laws to show
himself a “mean” God. He legislated in this way knowing that the sexual
practices of society, especially a new society and nation, would impact people.
Sexual unfaithfulness hurt the faithful. Sexual immorality undermined the morally
innocent. Ultimately, everyone lost in sexual sin.
Now,
what about that famous passage out of Deuteronomy 24 concerning divorce? You
and I need to understand that Moses’ purpose was not to state the reason about
which one might legally obtain a divorce, rather it was to regulate the
behavior of a man who had already determined to divorce his wife. Moses did not
emphasize divorce; he emphasized what came afterward. Moses focused not on
regulating the behavior of the wife; rather, he limited the right of a husband
to treat the wife as disposable property. To set aside the former wife like “an
ace” tucked away in one's hand to play if needed, was to disrespect the wife.
The disrespect hurt a nation.
Finally,
an extraordinary verse: 5 If a man
has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on
him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the
wife he has married.
Family
was supremely important. In a caring society, people recognized that the normal rules and
responsibilities from time to time needed to be set aside to build and
reinforce the family. Others would have to assume additional obligations
because newly married man must be free to stay at home and bring happiness to
his bride.
Here
is the principle–the health of marriage and the health
of society are bound together; as one goes, so goes the other.
Jay
Gordon, founder of Gordon-Conwell Seminary, went for a walk many decades ago
through a field. In the distance, he saw house. Beside the house, it seemed a
man was energetically and frenetically pumping an old fashioned, hand-operated
well pump. The man was like a machine. He never stopped, and he never tired.
Incredible!
Yet,
as Gordon drew closer, he discovered what he thought was a man was no man at
all. Instead, he had seen a wooden figure painted like a man. The owner had
wired the pumping arm of this stick figure to the pump handle. Water poured
out—not because of the wooden figure. The water
was pumping the wooden figure. The water pushed and pulled the arm of the
wooden man.
A
commentator has applied the story by noting the God does not desire the
opinions of the world to push and pull his people. Rather, he wishes for people
to be driven by the word of God.
Now,
returning to the subject of family, so what? Let me offer one application by
going on a rant. (I could offer many.)
I have taught at a private
high school. I have taught in public universities and private universities. I
have taught in language Institute's overseas. My wife teaches in a public
school.
I
don't care if the federal government, if the state government, if the local
municipality, if the local school board, if the conservative Republican
president, the liberal Democratic president, were to issue proclamations of “No
child left behind”, “Every Child left behind”, “Every child passes”, “No child
passes”, “TAAKS tests”, “Star tests, ACT, SAT or any other kind of tests, you
are not going to have satisfactory education of children—kindergarten through
12th grade—until single men quit sleeping with single or married women, and
single women quit sleeping with single or married men.
Until
men marry one woman and stay with her until she dies, and each love the other
unconditionally and serve each other unconditionally and raise their children
to love unconditionally, serve unconditionally, and to be self-disciplined, optimal
education is not going to happen.
Until
society has stability in the family, education will simply be a matter of
damage control.
There–I
feel better.
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